I don’t like how becoming an adult means you have to stop being a kid; sure being an adult is a million times better (to each their own) but I think that instead of pretending to be a millionaire or pretending to have a family you could make that a reality. I’m not a fan of losing my childlike faith from gaining knowledge of the world and I don’t like how we can’t pretend anymore out loud. Though we could. Isn’t being fake pretending? It’s just the in style term for the word pretend. The word “fake”, according to Urban Dictionary, means someone who acts too nicely with a disgustingly sweet voice (here’s the link to the full descriptive definition http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=fake). I’ve met people who are fake – duh who hasn’t? – and I’m not a fan, but who am I to make people stop their childlike pretending? They’re practicing their imagination and seeing how many people they can get to play along.
I don’t want to call it that because it sounds dirty so I’m just going to say preference (maybe).
When someone is barefoot my eyes gravitate towards their openness and I get a once-over to see if they are nice or not. If they are nice (meaning if they are clean, clipped nails, long toes (not stubby)), then you get major bonus points towards me liking you. See? Preference.
I’m not a bad person for technically judging someone by their feet, I’m just thinking about what kind of person doesn’t care about their own feet. I have plenty of friends whose feet aren’t the best and I still love them (the person, not the feet) to pieces. I just get really happy when I see a really attractive person with nice feet. I don’t know why but I do.
Example: when I see a celebrity with bare feet I get excited; it’s like they’re real people you know? They weren’t born with some super fancy shoe as a foot instead of 10 toes and a fear of stepping on Legos.
I like feet but I don’t have a foot “fetish”.
Please tell me I’m not alone in thinking something like this.
What is your awkward fetish/ not fetish?
No I don’t mean the creepy movie about vagina dentata (if you don’t know that that is don’t google it, watch the movie Teeth).
I’m sitting in a waiting room of an orthodontists office and my stomach hurts. Luckily I’m not the one getting worked on, so that eases the tension, but my mother is and she has a terrible fear of dentists and sharp things in her mouth and I feel her pain. Not literally but I hate going to the dentist’s office (mostly because that’s how she taught me to react while growing up, but whateves). I hate that she has to get surgery but she needs it, I’d rather be in pain for a short while than be in pain for a really long time (like the rest of my life) even though I swear up and down I will never get my wisdom teeth taken out (yes I’m a 20-year-old who still has all of her wisdom teeth) but they don’t hurt me and they haven’t caused any problems (yet) and I’ll just keep them, I feel smarter with these new teeth sprouting up, thank you.
Take care of your teeth. My mothers’ diet (though she doesn’t eat a lot to begin with) consists mostly of her seasonal candy and diet coke, even though she brushes twice a day, uses mouthwash and (I’m pretty positive she) flosses every day as well, that’s not enough to tackle the impact of what sweets and diet coke can do to you.
I never really pay attention to what I eat, I don’t eat a lot of healthy food but I don’t eat a ton of candy either. My teeth aren’t perfect, far from, I have cavities (I’m getting it taken care of once mom is done, she’s the priority) and I have an inconsistent dental hygiene routine (once classes start back up I’ll be back on track, it’s difficult without a schedule). I also blame my mom’s genetics for her teeth whereas my dad has really great teeth (I’ve never been so thankful to be more genetically like my father).
I don’t have any terrible dentist stories, I just know I should dislike them.
Do you have any bad dentist stories? Or to switch it up, do you have any great dentist stories? These will be a great comfort to be in the coming months.
Am I the only one that gets super motivated for a while and then it turns to mush within a day? I love working on my career and learning new things and writing and planning but sometimes I get over the high that I feel when I’m working on something I love. It’s stinks and it makes me not want to do anything. Like right now, I’m working on my blog and researching PR tactics and conferences to go to next year. I’m having a blast, I’m feeling motivated that this is the career path I want and that I will live the life my parents want me to (I say that because they always tell me to not live the life they have because it sucks; they work because they have to and they don’t necessarily enjoy). I want to be able to do anything I want (duh, who doesn’t?) and I want to be able to help people and to prove people wrong and to show the world who I am and what I am capable of. I’m excited for my future. It will be bright and full of people who I love and we’ll be going on adventures non-stop and I’ll be living life to the fullest (my head is in the clouds and I like it up here so leave me alone).
I say all of this and it amps me up. I get excited and it makes me want to work harder but eventually I hit a wall and it’s hard to overcome.
Fear. That is my wall. The fear of change, the fear of failure. I don’t like failing and my outlook on change depends on if its good or bad. I’m working on climbing that wall and breaking it. I don’t like when fear creeps in my head and ruins my chance of greatness. I could accomplish a ton more if I overcome my fear of life.
So that’s my New Year’s Resolution: conquering (or at least working on breaking) my fear wall. It will be difficult but as long as I’m sure of what I want to do when I “grow up” then I’ll be fine and I’ll start living the life I actually want.
What are your resolutions?
See you on the other side!
Like many others I am a big fan of Christmas. I don’t like decorating the Christmas tree but I do love decorating the house and putting up lights. Christmas is a wonderful time for giving, as many people do: presents are the #1 things we give on Christmas. I love opening presents (I’m only 20 I can still enjoy a childlike Christmas) and I love wrapping presents (even though I’m terrible at it), I love seeing the look on the recipients face when they see what they got.
Christmas is about so much more than presents though: family, fellowship, religious beliefs. We as a culture, we as a people, make Christmas about giving hundreds of dollars in toys and gadgets and gift-able items but rarely do we see people celebrating the real meaning of Christmas: giving back to the people that can’t give at all due to their circumstances or loving the time they get off to appreciate their family and friends.
What does Christmas mean for you?
1. Fall Themed Pictures
The world is your perfect studio during the fall; grab your camera and some friends and head out to a local park and rake up the leaves and take fall photos!
2. Spending any time outside while you still can
Last minute Frisbee on your Library Lawn, a jog around campus, biking around your college town, bonfires at your local lake. Use this Fall to spend quality time with friends and be thankful for the cooler weather.
3. Go to home football games
4. Find a new indoor hobby for the winter
Take up reading, start a blog and document your college career, take more naps, binge watch Netflix, maybe, if you’re bored enough, start studying for finals
5. Speaking of Netflix, catch up on new seasons and episodes you missed while studying
6. Go on a last minute road trip before traveling takes an icy turn
No one likes to be shut in during the winter and we all love getting off campus every once in a while. So while it is still safe, take a trip to nearby state parks for camping or amusement parks for one last hurrah.
7. Make plans for winter break
We have almost a full month with no classes, no school responsibilities (unless you’re taking winter classes, in that case I’m sorry and you’re winning) so why don’t we go ahead and plan something awesome for every week or for the whole break; I hear NYC, California and Europe are wonderful vacation destinations.
Let me know what you’re up to this fall by tweeting me @maddywritesalot
We all know the horror of trying to remember everything your best friend said about something they wanted. We wrack our brains trying to remember the thing they want most while maintaining our budget, except we’re in college and we don’t have budgets but whatever. So we think and think and pry and cry because we can’t even remember their favorite color at this point and so we ask our other friends if they have an idea on a super awesome present only to come up blank. Well this post is to help make it a tad easier for you to splurge your (parents’) hard-earned money on your friends for sticking with you for yet another semester.
- Starbucks Gift Card
Somewhere in the World Wide Web there is a coupon for a $15 Gift Card for $10. That’s a deal to me.
- Any Gift Card
Panera, Sonic, Walmart, Target; I think I would shed a tear if I got one for Target because Target is a utopia in itself where I have to spend at least $80 every time I walk in the door.
- Their Favorite Candy
No explanation needed, just pry or if you’re a true friend you’ll already have a stockpile of their favorite candy/food for when they show up at 1am wanting to talk.
- Scrapbook of your friendship
Scrapbooking is a cute way to show your love. It’s crafty and shows you care. Just print out pictures of each other that you took (or if there aren’t many of you together, you and them separately) and throw them in a scrapbook; Hobby Lobby has some cheap cardboard ones that you decorate and get super crafty with!
This may come off offensive for some but I think it’s a kind gesture especially if you know a specific one that they want. See the previous post about candles if you’re going in blind.
- T-Shirt/ Something that is Sentimental
Did you go to a concert together? Get them a shirt of that band. Do you watch a weekly TV show together? Get them an action figure. Give them anything that means something to both of you and that you can always remember those days and times together.
Awesome gift for the ones that have perpetual cold feet. Cute and fluffy ones always work for the winter season. Urban Outfitters also have awesome socks that are pop culture references or just interesting in general and they usually have deals for them.
- Movie/Concert tickets
Is your friend dying to see the new installation of their favorite franchise? Get them a movie ticket, you should probably throw in another one for you, you wouldn’t want them to go alone right? Same if their (and your) favorite band is coming to town, snatch up those tickets and wrap them in a big box to throw them off. Remember to use tons of tissue paper!
- Gift Basket
Hand make a gift basket for a movie night in. Fill it with their favorite candy, popcorn, soda and a DVD. Or you can buy one and make someone else put it together and be creative for you.
- Jar of Pickles/ An Inside Joke/ Something Simple
I would usually get my best friend in high school a jar of pickles as her gift. We both had a love for pickles so I thought it would be fun. It became a usual thing and she loved it, or at least pretended she did. Sometime it’s the simplest thing that matters most.
- Print out Pictures of You Two (or Three etc)
Be crafty with it. Find a letter for their initial and cut the pictures and glue them to fit onto the letter. It’s personalized, decorated and sweet.
- Paint Them a Canvas
Show your artistic eye by getting a canvas and some paint and going at it. Splatter paint is super easy (you shouldn’t do it in a dorm room unless you cover everything in plastic), or you could paint them a motivational piece for their room. It’s fun, easy and different.
I am an avid buyer of candles. I love when my room/ house smells like a completely different place, like a winter wonderland for example.
My all-time favorite winter season fragrance is Winter Candy Apple, it’s perfect. It’s sweet, not too overbearing and the perfect touch for the holiday season. I have everything in this scent, lotion, hand sanitizer, body wash, spritz, you name it I got it. It’s a classic at Bath and Body Works.
Next on the list is Flannel. It’s manly, manly and, oh did I say manly? It’s the perfect smell for when you want to cozy up with your favorite flannel (get it?) and binge watch chick flicks or superhero TV shows. I don’t have the full line of this product yet but I do have the mini candle and it is a wonderful change from the flowery sunset smell that my room had.
Mahogany Teakwood is my next favorite. Like the previously mentioned smell it is manly. Flannel is punchier and has a higher pitch in sense of smell while Teakwood is more musky and earthy. It’s very pleasant, so much that I have the car scentable holder for this scent and every time I open my car door I get a whiff of it.
Cozy Cabin is next on the list. It’s a beautiful wintery blue color and just the look of it is calming. The smell is also a very calming aspect about this line. It is incredibly fresh and it smells like you’re in a secluded snowy cabin paradise without responsibilities or finals.
Twisted Peppermint is another favorite. It’s a wonderful scent that is girly, minty and it feels like you’re in a winter wonderland. I have the hand sanitizer of this product and I love it to pieces. It smells so amazing, it’s not overwhelming and it makes anywhere you’re at brighter. Feelin blue? Rub some Twister Peppermint on and get carried away to a better world.
Review on the downtown Aspen Coffee in Stillwater, OK.
So Aspen is a cute little coffee shop (chain) in downtown Stillwater. I really enjoyed the atmosphere, they had knickknacks, large jars of coffee beans on display (you ask them at the counter for a 1/2lb (or however much you want) bag of it and they take the giant jar and measure it for you to take home and enjoy). It was a wonderful place to study. They didn’t have a bathroom which sucked when I spilled Jacob’s (the man in the picture) coffee all over the table and his notebook. He had to go behind the counter and wash his hands.
So yeah. That happened. I knocked it over when I was trying to touch his arm to tell him that everything was okay, obviously it wasn’t when I almost ruined his phone… Thank God for Bookbook, right?
After the catastrophe we settled back down and did homework and studied. I got a lot done, more so than if I were in my dorm, because if I were there I would be bingeing Arrow.
Anyway: Aspen Coffee Downtown was fantastic and I am currently texting Jacob about how we want to make it a regular study place.
If you’re in the neighborhood we’ll be at the high table in the corner. 😉
Flannels are the greatest shirts for the fall and winter seasons. They are stylish, super comfortable and super warm. I wear them anywhere and everywhere. I even wear them to sleep sometimes. Flannels grew popular because of lumberjacks wearing them, but they hit their style peak in the 1990s when bands like Nirvana and Pearl Jam wore them on stage. Flannels are made from a material that is soft enough to wear for long hours at a time but tough enough to withstand the elements while working.
Flannels are very versatile articles of clothing. You can wear them with the sleeves down and utilize the warmth of the long sleeves, or you can roll them up and find your happy medium. To be more like a lumberjack (costume idea?) you could just rip the sleeves off, or you could wear it around your waist and be retro.
Flannel shirts are super trendy, comfortable and relatable. I have three of my own, and I plan on expanding my collection this winter. They come in many different colors, but the fan favorite seems to be black and red.